The Virtue Effect on the Brain Mini Guides
From People Pleaser to Confident
The Harmonizer's Guide to Mental Fitness
Do you say yes when you mean no, then wonder why you're so tired?
This 10-day guide helps you hear your own voice, trust it, and use it, while you stay the warm, generous person you already are. One virtue a day, a short read on what's happening in your brain, and one small practice to try.
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Ten days, ten virtues
Each day focuses on one virtue. You read a little about what it does in your brain, try one small practice, and then come back and notice what happened.
- Day 1Honesty
- Day 2Authenticity
- Day 3Sincerity
- Day 4Integrity
- Day 5Self-Awareness
- Day 6Discernment
- Day 7Respect
- Day 8Fairness
- Day 9Loyalty
- Day 10Grounding
What's inside
- What's happening in your brain. Why someone else's disappointment can feel like such a big deal, and why saying "no" can set off an internal alarm. You'll also meet two thought habits that keep the pattern going: Mind-Reading and Guilt-Beating, two of the ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) from Dr. Daniel Amen's work.
- Every day includes a short definition, Your Brain On It, how the virtue helps a Harmonizer, what the virtue isn't, and a practice for the day.
- Writing pages to set your intention before you practice, and to notice what happened after.
- A photo for each day to sit with.
Who it's for
- You care a lot about the people around you, and you'd like to care for yourself too.
- You agree to things and then wish you hadn't.
- You feel responsible for how everyone in the room is feeling.
- Your Hidden Fear Profile Quiz result was Harmonizer.
About the author
Suzette Parker is a Certified Brain Health Coach trained through Amen University and a Board-Certified Life Coach. She came to brain health through her own family's story, so she teaches from experience as much as from training. She wrote this guide with co-creator Kim Mills, her co-host on The Unafraid Living podcast.
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One virtue a day, about 15 minutes. Start whenever you like.
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For personal use. Because it's a digital file, we can't take returns, but if anything isn't working, email us and we'll help. This guide is a self-reflection tool for personal growth, not therapy or medical advice. If something bigger comes up, please talk with a licensed professional.